Loving from a distance is often vital to our mental health, especially when our relationships are unhealthy.
Some (but not all) signs we may need distance:
- There are no boundaries in the relationship.
- We feel like we have no voice in the relationship.
- They physically or emotionally harm us.
- The other person is always negative.
- We put forth more effort to maintain the relationship.
- They are dishonest with us.
We distance ourselves by establishing boundaries through healthy communication techniques like “I” statements and identifying consequences when boundaries are disrespected:
- “I feel (emotion) when (behavior). If you continue to (behavior), I can’t be around you.”
- I feel disrespected when I’m lied to. If you continue to be dishonest, I can’t be around you.”
The key to setting boundaries is to follow through with consequences. The people in our lives may not be responsive to how we put boundaries in place, and it will take time for them to adjust. It is important to remember this is ultimately to help us create healthier relationships.
To learn more about healthy relationships and boundaries, connect with us.