Introduction When a person experiences an uncomfortable emotion, it is usually preceded by any number of unhelpful self-statements and thoughts. Often there is a pattern to such thoughts, which are called “cognitive distortions.” Cognitive distortions are patterns of inaccurate, negative thinking that, if left unaddressed, can have a significantly negative
Much of our frustration and discontent come from continuously searching for an elevator to achieving our goals and aspirations. We will pass countless stairways trying to just find that easier, more convenient option but the result is always the same; no elevators. When we cannot find the elevator, we often
You are driving down the street minding your own business when suddenly someone cuts you off. All of a sudden, you feel that little twinge. You know what twinge I am talking about. It is that split second when your temperature starts to elevate, heart rate increases, and muscles get
Challenge anyone who makes the statement “it’s a dangerous world”. Our view of the world has a huge impact on our mental health and how we approach life. If anyone says that it’s a dangerous world, ask them how many times today they were in real danger. How many times
I experienced a moment yesterday evening while driving home. I found myself feeling frustrated because there was a car in front of me. They were driving slower than I wanted to drive. I mean, how dare they drive the actual speed limit? I have been in this profession long enough
Do you know someone who experiences persistent and excessive anxiety that limits their growth and quality of life? Our Anxious Perspective Some believe the only way to overcome excessive worrying/anxiety is by shutting it off. Unfortunately, many people have a generally negative view of anxiety, which is a significant reason
Thought spiraling: when one unpleasant thought triggers a chain of unpleasant thoughts. Side affects may include: feeling anxious, overwhelmed, angry, and depressed. These feelings can lead to self-harming, isolation, impulsive decisions, etc. Examples: If I’m late to work —> my boss will be angry with me —> they will fire
Many people say they are kind. But keep in mind that kindness is more than just the absence of being an asshole. The definition of kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. When is the last time you were deliberately kind to someone? Out of nowhere, tell
We all experience some form of adversity or trauma throughout our lives – the loss of a loved one, serious illness, separation and/or divorce, or currently, the global pandemic known as the Coronavirus (COVID-19), for example. In times like this, it is reasonable to feel overwhelmed, sad, or worried. Taking
Just about anyone could benefit from talking to a therapist about relationship issues, worries, life changes, or setting goals. Therapy is not just for those with severe depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges. As a therapist, here are six things I want you to know about therapy: Going to therapy
When we believe that our emotions are a reality, we are victim to emotional reasoning. We disregard all evidence contrary to the thought/emotion we have as a result of this cognitive distortion. I feel that I am worthless; therefore, I must be worthless. I feel lonely; therefore, no one cares
One of the most important aspects of achieving your goals is educating yourself to make informed decisions and taking confident action steps. However, as a therapist, one of the primary challenges that brings people to see me is they have over-complicated the change process by continuing to look for answers
Children don’t just listen to what parents say—they absorb how they interpret the world. One of the most powerful (and often overlooked) lessons a child learns is how to handle perceived slights, misunderstandings, and social friction. When a parent consistently takes things personally, it can quietly shape a child’s social
In today’s increasingly polarized climate, it’s not uncommon for couples to find themselves on opposite sides of the political spectrum. For some, these differences are a source of intellectual curiosity and growth. For others, they can become a chronic source of tension, misunderstanding, and emotional distance. The ability for couples
Friendships are one of the clearest mirrors of a child’s emotional world. The way children choose friends, respond to conflict, handle rejection, and seek acceptance often reveals deeper insecurities they may not yet have the words to express. For parents, teachers, and caregivers, observing friendship patterns can provide valuable insight